Pardon me while I'm gettin' on my soap box.
Right now I have a young man weed eating all of the fox tails that have about darn near taken over the farm. He is a sophomore in high school and has called my husband asking for work. He is wanting to work this Summer to obviously make some money and be productive. I am thankful to see a work ethic being formed and shaped, parents instilling a sense of drive in their boy, and I'm thankful to be able to give someone a job. Work is a beautiful thing.
I get very frustrated and flustered at our culture these days. There is this mentality that hard work is for the 'lower class' or for those who aren't smart enough to go to college. No one wants to sweat, work, do physical labor, and just plain 'get after it' when it comes to making a living. We are told that it is better to make money with our brain than with our brawn. I want to reply to this, "Why not both?"
We have a sea of boys and girls, young people, and adults who don't know how to work. Sure, they have skills that they learned in college that has prepared them for a job that they are desiring, but do they know how to do any of the day to day stuff? Do they know how to mow a lawn and fix the lawn mower when it breaks down? Do they know how to replace a faucet, fix a creaky door, patch a hole in the wall, change the oil in the car, and so on? Can they cook a meal, clean the bathrooms, do laundry, and maintain a home? Do they have any life skills that are needed for our more basic needs?
Let me just say I think college is highly beneficial in our day and age. It's hard to get about any job available without any sort of degree and I think that is a good and a bad thing. Life experience can be a better teacher in many cases than a classroom. Now I want a surgeon who has studied hard, learned all about the body and it's functions, and who has experience performing surgeries. I want a lawyer to defend my innocence who knows the law through and through and has spent the time to learn how the court system operates. I want an accountant who knows how to properly handle the paperwork and be very smart with the math skills needed. I am NOT knocking education, but I am trying to make a point.
Physical work produces an enduring spirit in a person and it encourages common sense. My husband and I make it a point to involve our kids in our work. Whether it's Seth taking the kids to a construction job and letting them see what he does or myself involving the kids in the kitchen or having them help me do chores around the house. My son is already learning how to pour concrete and helps with the to-do's around the farm. Both of my kids help feed the animals, clean out the barn and chicken coop, set the table, clean the house, and etc. They love to help and we love that they are learning how to work and the satisfaction that comes from seeing what has been accomplished. When my kids see Seth or I come to a problem, they also see us figure out how to solve it and move forward. Problem solving is something that needs to be taught, instilled, and encouraged. It doesn't come naturally. Don't believe me? Just watch any child that can't figure out what they're desiring and usually they start to throw a fit.
Don't think that I'm saying, "if you don't live on a farm, do construction, or make a living doing physical labor, then you don't know how to work or are lazy." I know plenty of people to don't work a 'physical' job, but are very hard working. My point is mainly geared towards parents.
Parents, don't fall into the trap that your kids should be allowed to play all day, every day. Don't tell yourself that since they have to work for the rest of their lives, that they should be able to do whatever they want right now. If you do, I'm afraid your setting them up for failure. Teach them how to work, how to use their bodies to do something useful and to use their brains to always figure out a better way. Teach them that being productive can in many ways be more satisfying than hours of entertainment. Teach them that work is a part of reality and that rest is a reward for the time spent accomplishing a task. Teach them that brains and brawn work better together than apart.
All-in-all, kids should be able to be kids, they should get plenty of time to play and exercise their imagination, they should be taught how to work with their bodies and how to think with their brains. They need to know that all of life is not fun and play, or they'll be like so many today - selfish and lazy.
I know I'm a young parent and so you probably think that I need about 15 more years of parenting under my belt in order to give this advice. I am giving you this advice out of experience though. Maybe not out of experience of being a parent, but experience of being a child who was taught by two very hard working, smart, and productive parents. Parents who thought it better for me to learn how to raise animals, grow a garden, take care of a house, be studious in school, and to know what was involved in real life than having me grow up to believe that life was all about gratifying self.
Steppin' down now.
I love this post! You basically summed up how my husband and I were raised, and how we want to raise our future kids. It is shocking for us sometimes to see the people our age (mid-late twenties) who still live and behave basically like spoiled children. They were never set up to succeed in life. Still living at home with no career or life ambitions, or knowledge on how to run or maintain a household. I am so glad I was raised the "old fashioned" way. It definitely made life easier for me once I was grown and on my own!ReplyDelete
Couldn't agree more! Many "kids" nowadays (since you & I aren't of the youngest generations anymore! Lol) have barely put down their cell phones to do some good, dare I say "old fashioned" manual labor. On the other end of the spectrum, there are college graduates with Master's degrees who are not able to find work in the field they got their education in, and are severely in debt. The jobs they CAN get are not equal to the debt their in to get that degree.ReplyDelete
It goes back to being a well-rounded person. It's important to have an education, or at least strive to do non-biased self-education if schooling is not in the cards, but it's also equally important to know what physical work is like. Not only is it beneficial in the long run, it also gives a person a sense of open-mindedness and understanding when being empathetic to the extreme physical laborers in our society, especially those doing the work and STILL not receiving a proper living wage. It also can make a young person (or hopefully ANY person, for that matter) realize that success and living securely can come in both forms which will give them skills needed during their own life.
Applause! Applause! Great post! Our world needs more parents with ideals such as yours. There is nothing quite as satisfying as sitting back at the end of a long, hard day & being able to see & appreciate the work accomplished.ReplyDelete
I so agree!ReplyDelete
When our society decided kids would be better of "just being a kid", instead of physically contributing and learning they did a disservice to everyone. I know I wanted to to do things, learn and contribute as a child. why quelch their natural desire to be involved? I think that learning skills that allow them to contribute to the needs of the family and by extension their community results in children and then adults who are more engaged and contribute more in their communities. Not only do they have important practical skills but value themselves, have a strong work ethic, since of responsibility and know the value of hard work.
Great post. It is much needed in today's world!!ReplyDelete